It’s High School Conferences In The Dalles This Week

You live in The Dalles and have kids in the local High School. It conference time – again. The end of the school year is just around the corner and you’re just realizing that you’ve skipped out on every school conference for this school year. It wasn’t exactly your plan to be completely hands off when it comes to school conferences, it just sort of happened. It’s been a long time coming.

You went to M’s school conference at the Middle School in the Fall, and it was about that time you decided you simply didn’t want to do this anymore. In fact, you were absolutely not going to attend anymore conferences. You hated them when your kids attended the David Douglas School District and you found the one conference you did attend in The Dalles was equally awful. You don’t blame anyone or think its anyone’s fault – the way the school systems are set up just make conferences less than ideal. Teachers have never called you out on your absenteeism, but you have your argument cocked and ready to go in the event that they do.

  1. Conferences these days are on a drop in basis. You come, you find your child’s classroom and wait your turn in the hall. This could be 5 minutes or it could be an hour. Your time is just as valuable as anyone else and waiting around for extended periods of time would mean you had pretty high exceptions about what would come next…
  2.  Upon meeting your child’s teacher you can tell they want to act interested in your child. In reality your child isn’t a troublemaker and is a pretty average student. You wonder if this teacher even knows anything about your child, besides his name.
  3. Student led conferences suck. If you’ve ever asked a teenager a question then you  know their responses are mumbled, shitty responses. The same type of reaction is given at these conferences. Teacher plops down a pile of work and tells the child to go over the work with the parent. Meanwhile, teacher pretends to look interested as she makes note of your attendance in her book.
  4.  You’re a pretty damn involved parent on the day to day basis. You check Parent Access several times a week, you know what they are missing and how their grades are. You leave communication open and ask loads of questions. You already know what the hell is going on and have lost  feeling the need to show up and waste everyone’s time for student conferences.

Part of you feels bad, mostly because you know it might look bad or sound bad that you don’t go. However, you also haven’t brushed your hair all week and that probably looks pretty bad also. Sugar-free candy has been making your skin break out and you’re pants are ready to bust at the seams – all bad looks.

Mother’s Day is coming up and you’ll be praised for all the things you do, and no one will mention the things you don’t. So, while you haven’t attended a school conference in several terms, you’ve still done a lot and that is going to have to be enough.


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